As much as I like dressing up and getting frivolous, sometimes it’s nice to keep it chill. I had been thinking how much I wanted that basic but ubiquitous ‘fashion staple’ of a stone-coloured mac: no bells, no whistles, no ‘quirky’ design details, just like nature intended. I hadn’t seen any in plus size retailers and had shoved the desire to the back of my mind, on the pile with ‘holiday to Tokyo’ and ‘wire fox terrier’, the Maybe One Day When Things Are Different pile. But then fate intervened! During a quick dash to the post box in the shopping centre opposite work, I spied a whole rack of the exact item I desired the most, marked with a SALE sign in Gap. Not only were they in the sale, but they were also 20% off the sale price. Ask, my friends, and ye shall receive. So here we are, with me owning a delightful mac for a day at work then taking my beloved Beth for birthday poutine, just like we never left Montreal.
Not sure what my hair is trying to do here… I’m having an ongoing struggle with how to make my hair look normal while growing it. Apologies.
The old blonde was coming through so I dyed my hair a couple of shades darker the other night, which coincided with me receiving this sweet baby goth dress from Scarlett & Jo. Gothy autumnal vibes abound! The crocheted collar really makes this dress, but aside from that, it’s a well-fitted dress of a decent length with sleeves, and I for one will always be in the market for those. As I said in my accessories post the other day, collars are forming a major part of my accessory ~vibe~ at the moment, so wearing this adorable dress under my coat with a big fluffy fur collar was an autumn dream.
And just to show you a bit more of the lovely crocheted detailed collar…
If summer is about wearing the bare minimum, then autumn is when my desire to accessorize properly kicks in. I’m feeling quite inspired by accessories and makeup at the moment, so thought I would do a quick post with my current fave bits that are either mine or soon-to-be-mine!
Top row- Monki beanie with veil: Monki’s accessories are just outstanding at the moment. I want them all. I picked up this net veil beanie in Gothenburg and am sad it hasn’t been cold enough here for me to wear it yet. It merges practical and interesting in a way that I feel very enthusiastic about // ASOS faux fur collar: I’m completely obsessed with fur collars, both on jackets and coats and on their own on top of other outerwear. This particular one was snapped up at the end of a recent ASOS sale, but there are loads around. This one feels quite masculine somehow and I always feel like Henry VIII when I wear it // Olivia Burton watch from Twisted Time: This is the most perfect and autumnal watch of them all, isn’t it? It feels like dead leaves and Silence of the Lambs (crime thrillers are what I look for in all my accessories, obviously) and I am just so into it. It’s a subtle statement, and one that works well with my other nature-inspired jewellery bits like my Alex Monroe necklaces.
Middle row- Rimmel Exaggerate eyeliner: My black liquid eyeliner quest was turning into a bit of a saga. I tried and I tried, I swear I did. I tried cheap ones and expensive ones, felt tip ones, inky inky ones, skinny brushes, thick brushes. And then I did what I should have done all along: asked someone with a deep commitment to eyeliner. My buddy Grace has some distinctive eyeliner going on, and they’ve always recommended Rimmel Exaggerate on top of some primer or foundation. And I am converted // Pink faux fur collar: What can I say, you can’t have too much of a good thing. I became possessed by the idea of a fluffy, feminine pink fake fur collar so I ordered this cheapy cheap one off Ebay which is winging its way towards me. I’m planning on wearing this with my more femmey coats and the browny ASOS one over my leather jacket // Hair scarves: Proving an essential part of my hair growth process, covering up bad hair days (or dirty hair days) with a scarf has been a total blessing. This Monki one I got in the sale a long time ago is the perfect size, shape and texture for tying up. And it has eyeballs on it.
Bottom row – MAC Russian Red lipstick: I tossed this into my little ziploc bag for my Copenhagen trip this weekend on a whim, and discovered what an excellent shade it is for me. I know everyone loses their shit over Ruby Woo but I find it’s just too cakey and dry. MAC Red and Russian Red hit the spot, though. I see this becoming an old new favourite // Leopard print tips: a DIY job that I’m really enjoying doing on myself now I have these excellent talons. I put on an episode of something silly like The Blacklist that I don’t have to concentrate on and I get to work. I think I even prefer just the tips to a full nail of leopard? // Monki pale blue scarf: Because I can’t afford an Acne Canada scarf, I have this baby blue Monki edition instead. Look how sweetly it works with my bright pink coat and bag. What a dream.
I feel like gold, orange and leopard print is a genius combination. I don’t know if it’s a known classic but it certainly enthuses me (yesterday i was wearing a bright orange wool swing cardigan under this coat, with jeans and sneakers). And besides, it’s the first outing of my absolutely fabulous Look magazine for Simply Be dress. I sung the collection’s praises when I posted the outstanding coat that gets me so many compliments, and there are still some items I’m properly pining for (both the maxi dresses must find their way to me), but today it’s the turn of the orange-red shirt dress. It’s so comfortable, it’s just the right length, the buttons at the neck is a sweet detail, it’s sensible but not too worky. I adore it.
And this is what happens when the wind blows…
Other new fave: my new Swatch from the Watch Hut. I’ve been wearing my chunky rose gold watch for the past couple of years but recently it’s been looking a bit tarnished and scratched, so when the Watch Hut offered me a new watch, obviously I said yes. My old watch was a beautiful beast, but it was extremely heavy, so when I would sit at my desk at work I’d have to take it off when I typed because it made such a loud noise whenever I moved my hands. Not ideal. But I love metal strap watches, so the obvious choice was a lighter metal one! This is just perfect, a shiny, bright gold, a readable face, a date section (that I need to set…). Satisfying.
Whichever queer scene I’ve been in, I’ve often felt self-conscious about my femininity. It’s only recently that I’ve found myself in a queer community that centres itself around challenging masculinity as the queer default, and celebrates femme identities. I’m feeling super empowered by my fat femme image at the moment, and deriving a lot of power from ‘femininity’. It’s not just about being ‘girly’, it’s about saying that your queer identity can’t be reduced or erased. As a femme who’s also specifically attracted to femmes, it’s powerful to me to know I’m not alone in that. Someone who’s always stood out to me as a shining beacon of fat queer femme energy is Nicolette Mason, whose style I’ve always revered in its own right, but also in relation to the fact she’s queer. People have written reams of interesting stuff on image and fashion in relation to queer identities and presentation so I’m not going to say too much about that, but I just wanted to tip my metaphorical fedora to someone who inspires me in how she lives her femme ID.
This is why Nicolette’s collection with ModCloth is so exciting to me. According to the size chart, the 4X which the styles go up to works out as a size 32-34, which is higher than I’ve seen pretty much any plus size range go (assuming it’s accurate).
Obviously the swishy, pretty prom dresses are super inspiring but this jumper just warmed my heart in a deep and meaningful way. I don’t know if it’s meant to be a pun, but I’m reading it thus.
This dress is such a showstopper. I absolutely adore the twisted-bow front and the length of the sleeves and feel like it’s those kind of details that elevate this dress beyond your average plus-size prom dress. That’s what happens when you get a fashion femme to help design your clothes [insert sassy lady emoji here].
This piece is genius because it speaks to the chic femme and the stylish butch. I’m particularly enthused by how the inimitable and decidedly non-femme Dannielle from Everyone Is Gay is wearing it in that outfit photo on the page.
My final fave is this teal prom dress, which, like the polka dot creation, is firmly in the list of ‘things I would love to own if only I had someone to wear it’. The sheer décolletage, the shape of the bodice, the bow, the colour of the material, the shape of the skirt are just divine. I want to wear this dress to stroll the streets hand in hand with a beautiful babe, swishing my skirt as I go.